The Phone Call..

I bring this subject up because I received a phone call from one of my many married friends the other day who had an epiphany about me. She said that she has figured out why I am okay with being single. It's because I don't revolve my world around the "phone call." You know the phone call that most single people wait for after meeting someone they are interested in or just went out on a first date with or hooked up with. It's the phone call that they have wrote rules on. I mean it's that big of a deal.
I never thought about it as a defining characteristic of mine but my analytical friend did and wanted to share with me. She said that most single people get into relationships and/or get married for guarantee of always having the "phone call." And since I don't need or crave to have the "phone call" guarantee, this is the reason why I am not actively or desperately looking for a committed relationship. I guess I am missing the "sitting by the phone" gene and I will probably be perpetually single because of it.
I know....I know...This sounds like a stretch but maybe my Sake drinking friend might have a point. I never thought about it until now and maybe because I'm missing the gene but there is a difference between actively looking not to be single people and active single people, especially at my age. Most of the people I hang out with now are single and around my age and I see both ends of the spectrum. The actively looking not to be single crowd do talk about the "phone call" more so than the active single crowd. They talk about the rules of the "phone call" and how it pertains to different situations and people and how the "phone call" can define the other person. If they didn't receive the "phone call," you can always tell by a person's attitude of defeat. If they did receive the "phone call," it's all sunshine coming out of their ass until they don't receive any more phone calls.
Now, let me share my view on the "phone call." I think of it as a symbolic ring of a bell or whistle at the beginning of a game. As soon as you pick up the phone, you might as well yell out "Let the games begin!" I know this may sound cynical but really I am not trying to be cynical but just putting my spin on it. I think people put too much of a game like emphasis on dating and relationships. We have rules, strategies, penalties, and awards for dating and relationships. Sounds a lot like a professional sport we like to watch live or on TV. Oops, did I just describe a reality show? And it all starts with the "phone call."
I don't think I am missing the "sitting by the phone" gene, I just don't revolve my relationships around it. I am not being cynical about relationships because I have to say I am pretty content in that area. I just don't subscribe to having my relationships played out like a game. If I want to get to know someone better they will know right away and won't have to sit by the phone waiting it for it to ring.....

On a sidenote: I do like my phone to ring just because I keep it on vibrate ; - )

Love and kisses,
Rosebud