Kickin' it East Coast Style

Okay let me recap the crazy/busy but great time I had back home....
-Seeing Adam, Danna, and Scott the first night in the East Village. Adam-lager bombs are only done correctly in Hawaii ; - )
-Going to LI for the day to do a much needed visit.
-Roxy's, that was a wild night/morning! Nothing like dancing w/ some of the best half naked male bods around ; - )
-G Bar, Good Times with Mikey, Osman, George, Dave, and Liam and let's not forget the other "men" ; - )
-Hoboken with Sanjay and Bobbie ; - )
-Danna meeting up with us no matter what time it was! Bubba Gump's Times Square @ 11pm no prob..
-4th of July!! Watching the Italy and Germany game @ the apt in the City and then having an amazing dinner and cruise on the yacht to see the fireworks in the Harbor. Awesome!
-MADONNA @ MSG. All I can say is Thank You Mikey!!! Those seats were amazing!! The show was amazing!! The night was amazing!!
-How about the bike/cab ride after the concert, Mikey? OMG, thank god we only lost a balloon and I didn't fall out of it from laughing so hard!! That was a good time!!
-All the many sunrise mornings I saw coming back from the City with me swearing that I will make it home before the sun rises the next time. Don't think that ever really happened.
-World Cup Final - Italia!!!
-Birthday Brunch and Surprise Formal Birthday Dinner for the bestest Uncle in the world!! An amazing day!!
-Trip to Easton, PA with Bobbie to visit some friends. Of course, the mercedes gets a flat before we get there. All I can say is thank goodness for kind gentleman helping damsels in distress because German engineering is so good on those cars that you need to read the manual to just get the spare out of the trunk ; - ) Thank you kind gentleman!!
-BTW, learned a new tidbit. If you buy beer at a state run store in PA, you can't buy less than a case of it. Wonder if there's a large population of alcoholics in PA? Hmmm....
-Tourist Day in NYC....OMG that was such a fun and goofy day!! Thanks Marcella, Antonio, and Rosemarie for being such good sports!!
-Being piggybacked along 7th Avenue around 3AM with my pink thong and half my ass hanging out!! George...I told you that wasn't such a great idea with me having a skirt on but noooo...you thought it would be fun!! Ha Ha....Good Times!!
-Me singing a happy tune in the middle of the night walking around the city to cheer you up Mikey. I know I only knew one line of it and I was making the rest up but hey I don't think I deserved the stink eye for it ; - ) Ha Ha
-Eating pizza @ 3 AM @ Ray's Pizza
-Eating @ the Diner with Mikey
-Eating in Hell's Kitchen with Mikey
-Eating @ Milan with Mikey
-Are we seeing a pattern here? Ate way too much but it was worth being a restaurant whore with my Mikey again!! Although, I now have to find a way to lose the 20 lbs I gained while I was there and quickly!!
I thought I was going to go home and relax and recharge a little but that didn't happen so much. It was worth all the sleepless nights and days to hang with family and friends East Coast style. Love and miss you guys!!

Commando Girl....

So I'm out with one of my good guy friends and he's venting about how his day has been so out of whack. Then he realizes that his watch has been on upside down all day long. So we assume that's why his day has been out of whack...I say all this because I bring up the many times I have had my panties on wrong and not realized until later on in the day. Those days always seemed like they were my "out of whack" days.
So my friend proceeds to remind me of the night I "lost" my panties. Still not sure what transpired that evening. I am still thinking that it was given as payment to the cabbie that drove us home. Or my friend is holding them hostage for some sick reason because I am definitely not his type and he would definitely not be interested in female panties. Eventhough he teases me relentlessly about the case of the "lost" panties, I'm starting to think that he had something to do with them being lost!
Okay so back to the more recent conversation...My friend tells me that I should just forego panties and go commando from here on out because I can't seem to put them on correctly and if I do I can't seem to keep them on!! And then he says my new nickname for him is "Commando Girl." I need a new nickname like I need another hole in my head.
Nice!! With friends like these who needs enemies....Damn, I really need to hang out with more girls ; - 0
Signing off...
Commando Girl

There are times that I miss my "mainland" girlfriends and this is one of the times. This was an old email that was sent to me and I think it has such a great message in it.

Love and miss you guys!!!

Time passes.
Life happens.
Distance separates.
Children grow up.
Love waxes and wanes.
Hearts break.
Careers end.
Jobs come and go.
Parents die.
Colleagues forget favors.
Men don't call when they say they will.
BUT..........Girlfriends are there, no matter how much time and how many miles are between you.
A girlfriend is never farther away than needing her can reach.
When you have to walk that lonesome valley and you have to walk it for yourself, your girlfriends will be on the valley's rim, cheering you on, praying for you, pulling for you, intervening on your behalf, and waiting with open arms at the valley's end. Sometimes, they will even break the rules and walk beside you. Or come in and carry you out.
Daughters, Daughters-in-law, sisters, sisters-in-law, mothers, mothers-in-law, aunties, nieces, cousins, and girlfriends bless our life!
The world wouldn't be the same without them, and neither would I.
When we began this adventure called womanhood, we had no idea of the incredible joys or sorrows that lay ahead. Nor did we know how much we would need each other.
Every day, we need each other still.

Damaged...

"We're all damaged, it seems. Some of us, more than others. We carry the damage with us from childhood, then as grownups, we give as good as we get. Ultimately, we all do damage. And then, we set about the business of fixing whatever we can. "
GA

Now who can't relate to this statement? If you can't in any way, shape, or form then you have been leading a very sheltered life indeed. I could go on and on about my own personal perspective on "damage" and "damage control" but I won't. Everyone has their own personal perspectives on the subject and people don't need to be bogged down by someone else's. Just wanted to throw a reflective statement out there for the few readers out there. Giving you guys some food for thought.

What lies behind us and what lies ahead of us are tiny matters compared to what lives within us.

Henry David Thoreau

"Band Aid Covers the Bullet Hole"

"It's easy to suggest a quick solution when you don't know much about the problem, when you don't understand the underlying cause, or just how deep the wound really is.
But some wounds are deeper than they first appear and require more than just a quick fix."
Meredith on Grey's Anatomy

Signs thay you may drink a little too much...

This was an old email I had sent out.

Signs that you may drink a little too much....

• You are still recovering on Tuesday from when you went out on Saturday night.
• You refer to different liquors as if they were actual people. For example: Jack, Jim, the Captain, Jose, Johnny.....
• The only relationship that you will admit to being in is with one of the examples from the last "sign."
• You can't remember the last time you pee'd clear.
• You have sprained or broken ligaments or bones while under the influence of alcohol.
• You have "battle" wounds and scars from falling into bushes and/or trees or because the sidewalk wanted to move on you in mid-step. And in your explanation of the battle, it is always the inanimate object's fault.
• The only time you see the sunrise is when you are finally crawling home from going out or if you decided to pass out alfresco style.
• You drink a gallon of water the day after drinking and you don't have the urge to pee until the day after that.
• You have cute little nicknames like "scarecrow" because you resembled the scarecrow from Wizard of Oz when he first tried to walk after having too many.
• You have made friends with inanimate objects like public cement trash cans.
• You have chosen the bathroom floor over your bed.
• You depend on other friend's memories of the evening to confirm what a complete idiot you were.
• The only proof of where you have been the night before are the ink stamps and paper bracelets that adorn your wrists and hands.
• You also have to depend on their memories for random strange people you have shared "PDA" moments with and also a description of them is always a bonus.
• Introduced guys that you met under the influence to your friends the next day by a totally different name than the one they were given at birth.
• If you are still drunk 12 to 24 hours after your last drink.
• If you are a repeat offender of D.U.I.'s (Dialing Under the Influence)
• Ever tried to walk thru a drive thru and not understand why you can't be served at 4 AM.
• Make up words like "sidewalky."
• Stood in an elevator with 3 other friends and it takes 5 minutes for ANYBODY to realize that we are not moving because noone pressed the button."
• Have friends that want to hold an intervention on your behalf.
• Think AA is for quitters and you're not a quitter.
• Have called friends after 2 AM for an emergency pickup because you realize that you are in a different city and state and have no idea where you are. Hmmm....maybe that's why my friends think I need a personal Lo Jack bracelet!
• The term "going low key" coming from you brings fear in the hearts of your friends.
• And last but not least, if you have said the phrase "I will never drink again" more than 10 times in your lifetime you may drink too much.
  

Serenity Prayer

God grant me the serenity to accept

the things I cannot change;

courage to change the things I can;

and wisdom to know the difference.

Sleepless in Honolulu...

I can't sleep. I have a lot of thoughts going through my mind so I won't ramble on because it's that bad. I will be kind to my few random readers. However, I will put a thought out there:

Metaphorically speaking: You ever wonder about scars or scar tissue? There's not a complete "cure" for them. They can be minimized but not completely taken away. There will always be a remnant of it, a constant reminder. External scars or scar tissue, although unsightly as they may be, for the most part do not hinder a person's ability to function. However, internal scars or scar tissue can, in the long run, become a detriment to a person's health or certain vital functioning capabilities.

Just a thought......

The Phone Call..

I bring this subject up because I received a phone call from one of my many married friends the other day who had an epiphany about me. She said that she has figured out why I am okay with being single. It's because I don't revolve my world around the "phone call." You know the phone call that most single people wait for after meeting someone they are interested in or just went out on a first date with or hooked up with. It's the phone call that they have wrote rules on. I mean it's that big of a deal.
I never thought about it as a defining characteristic of mine but my analytical friend did and wanted to share with me. She said that most single people get into relationships and/or get married for guarantee of always having the "phone call." And since I don't need or crave to have the "phone call" guarantee, this is the reason why I am not actively or desperately looking for a committed relationship. I guess I am missing the "sitting by the phone" gene and I will probably be perpetually single because of it.
I know....I know...This sounds like a stretch but maybe my Sake drinking friend might have a point. I never thought about it until now and maybe because I'm missing the gene but there is a difference between actively looking not to be single people and active single people, especially at my age. Most of the people I hang out with now are single and around my age and I see both ends of the spectrum. The actively looking not to be single crowd do talk about the "phone call" more so than the active single crowd. They talk about the rules of the "phone call" and how it pertains to different situations and people and how the "phone call" can define the other person. If they didn't receive the "phone call," you can always tell by a person's attitude of defeat. If they did receive the "phone call," it's all sunshine coming out of their ass until they don't receive any more phone calls.
Now, let me share my view on the "phone call." I think of it as a symbolic ring of a bell or whistle at the beginning of a game. As soon as you pick up the phone, you might as well yell out "Let the games begin!" I know this may sound cynical but really I am not trying to be cynical but just putting my spin on it. I think people put too much of a game like emphasis on dating and relationships. We have rules, strategies, penalties, and awards for dating and relationships. Sounds a lot like a professional sport we like to watch live or on TV. Oops, did I just describe a reality show? And it all starts with the "phone call."
I don't think I am missing the "sitting by the phone" gene, I just don't revolve my relationships around it. I am not being cynical about relationships because I have to say I am pretty content in that area. I just don't subscribe to having my relationships played out like a game. If I want to get to know someone better they will know right away and won't have to sit by the phone waiting it for it to ring.....

On a sidenote: I do like my phone to ring just because I keep it on vibrate ; - )

Love and kisses,
Rosebud

My Thoughts on Valentine's Day...

As I sit here with my back out of whack (ha ha, I'm a poet and didn't even know it ; - ) But seriously now.....I threw my back out and I have been trying to get through the day and evening as normal as possible. However, if you have ever thrown your back out you know that this is not an easy task. I looked like I had something shoved up my a$$ for the most part. Very attractive look for me...
I digress to what I originally wanted to write about....My thoughts on Valentine's Day. I spent my day going through my crazy daily routine of being all over the place. I finally came home with my back all jacked up that all I could do was lie on the hard floor for most of the evening. A friend came by to bring me dinner because there was no way that I could be seen in public looking like the hunchback of Notre Dame. Then I worked on school stuff and did some studying. I say all this because at the end of the day I wasn't depressed or upset that it was Valentine's Day and I was alone. I had an epiphany or maybe a hallucination from sniffing floor cleaner off the floor but either way it was a realization. Maybe the reason why I don't have my panties in a bunch that I am alone (defined as not having a committed significant other) on Valentine's Day is that I know that I am loved. I am loved by my family, friends, and "the more than just friends" friends.
Which brings me to the point of Valentine's Day. Isn't it supposed to be to celebrate your love for your significant other, family, and friends? Or to let them know how much they are loved? I found this as a definition: Valentine's Day is a day that honors the Italian priest Saint Valentine, but is now celebrated by exchanging of tokens of affection or friendship. I sent out my message of love to all my beloved ones and I received them in return. This satisfies me. Some people are truly alone without family or friends that love them and maybe if I was in that situation I might have to reevaluate some of my life choices. But I'm not and I am grateful for all my loved ones that are in my life.
I also want to bring up another point about Valentine's Day. It's a stressful holiday for most people and now in my older, wiser years I see the reason why people are so stressed. Marketing has made St. Valentine's Day such a pressure filled holiday by making it a relationship indicator of how much someone loves you by what they do for you or get you on that ONE day. Now that's a lot of pressure on someone...I mean if you don't say or do the right thing for your loved one on St. Valentine's Day does it discount all the other "right" things you said or did for the rest of the 364 days in the year? I guess the point that I'm getting at is that you should treat the people that you love like it's St. Valentine's Day everyday. So if you mess up on that ONE day, it will be forgiven because they don't need a holiday to know that you love them.

I now will get off my soapbox ; - )

Love and kisses,

Rosebud

The meaning of my name...

Rosalinda
Horse serpent : German
Beautiful rose : Spanish
You are idealistic and have a keen intellect and imagination. Philosophical with a gentle, romantic and giving nature your desire is to help others and benefit mankind. You attract many friends and are loved by all for your nurturing and understanding ways. Once a project has been started your determination and focus always ensures that it is completed. You exude peace and contentment and bring this into your environment and associations.

If you want to know the meaning of your name hit this link:http://www.bostonuk.com/index.cfm?id=572

It's Peanut Butter Jelly Time

You can't help but crack a smile while watching this ; - )

http://www.gkko.com/videos/1197/family-guy:-peanut-butter-jelly/ @ gkko.com

The thing about people and drama....

Actually I should pluralize "thing" to "things." My mantra for the last couple of years has been ABSOLUTELY NO DRAMA and I have been trying my darndest to live by it. However, I have had to make some sacrifices to try to achieve this level of utopia. For example, I've had to forgo any real committed relationship with the opposite sex because we all know that relationships come with some type of drama. Also letting go of friendships with people that took more energy out of you than they contributed to the friendship. And let's not forget the people that are just all about drama and can't go through a day without some type of drama (now that's not too much of a sacrifice but it's still a source of drama).
Now I say all this because I wanted to share what I have learned about people and drama during the last couple of years:

• Drama is like crack to some people. Seriously, they need to come up with a rehab program for these people.
• Rumors + Gossip=Drama
• Relationships=Drama
• Never assume that all gossip or rumors are true. If it's about someone you care about, please let them know about it. It's the humane thing to do.
• You shouldn't involve yourself or other people if it doesn't concern yourself or them in someone else's drama.
• Some drama you can't control. For example, family drama. Unfortunately, you were born into this.
• Don't make an issue the size of a mole hill into a mountain. If you notice a pattern here, then maybe you should consult a professional.
• There is a level of being too nice and giving. Trust me on this one.
• If all the stories you tell are about other people, then you might want to reevaluate your own life. Just a thought.
• And the most important thing I've learned is PEOPLE=DRAMA

That's right....We as people, humans, or whatever life form you would like to call us, will always equal some type or form of drama. And the more people you have in your life, the likelihood of an increase in drama in your life is very great. So there you have it...my thoughts about people and drama. I have lost faith in trying to find drama free utopia....It is impossible.

Seriously, if I say "I understand but I really don't give a sh*#," I am not trying to be funny.

Just Stop The Drama,

Rosebud

Changes....

Sorry for being M.I.A. but I have been going through some changes. Eventhough this is not such a new thing for me, "going through changes," as most of you that have known me for awhile. I now live in Waikiki which is great but I still miss Kailua at times. It marks a new chapter because I will be living by myself for the next 8 months. This will be a first for me. I have always lived with someone. My friends that have lived by themselves for awhile say that it's time for me to do the same or to at least experience it. I am doing fine and kind of enjoying it. School has started up and I already feel behind! Maybe because I still haven't recuperated from last semester. Wow...where did the time go? I mean I did have a month break and I even stayed here for the holidays so where did the time go that I was going to do all my relaxing in? I didn't even go to the beach and I live in Hawaii! Now if that isn't pathetic, I'm not sure what is? I think it's time to reevaluate my priorities again ; - )
I will try to check in a little more often now. I hope all is well with everyone and that the New Year kicked off in a great way ; - )

Love and kisses,
Rosebud